What do you do when your partner wants sex more than you do? This is called sexual desire discrepancy and it’s absolutely something you can navigate more effectively.

I recently had the pleasure to meet with Josh Miller and Clark Aegerter for their new podcast, Conversations with My Therapist. Josh is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Mapleton, Utah and Clark is a videographer and overall creative in Lehi, Utah.

You’re probably thinking, there’s no way cancer sets the stage for amazing sex. And, of course you’re thinking this. Cancer has caused loss after loss after loss. Loss of your breasts, breast sensation, vaginal health, sexual desire, confidence in your body image… I want to propose a shift in your focus. Focusing not on the losses in your sexual health, not on how you feel stuck with these sexual changes you didn’t ask for, but instead on the potential gains. I am not telling you to just think positive. I hate that. I’m a realist. I am telling you that there are more gains than you may realize. I want to share with you how cancer can set the stage for these gains. How cancer can set the stage for amazing sex.

n order to be added to my waitlist, a written referral from a health care or mental health care provider is required.

I recently finished writing and filming a 6-day course for Flo (a women’s health app: @flotracker) on Mastering Your Orgasm!

During the time of COVID-19, video visits (also known as telehealth or teletherapy) are a safe way to engage in therapy while maintaining social distancing. I’ve been providing teletherapy for the past 5 years on a regular basis and it is a great alternative to in-person visits.

Vaginismus involves involuntary contractions and tightening of these muscles. Essentially, these muscles are so tight that when anything (a penis, a tampon) attempts to enter the vaginal canal, they clamp shut. This causes that “hitting a wall” experience, because the penis/tampon is hitting a wall of tense, tight muscles.

When one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, this is called a desire discrepancy. Desire discrepancies are one of the most common sexual complaints seen by sex therapists.

Addiction is a disease. Thus, sex addiction is classified as a disease. There simply has not been adequate research to classify problematic sexual behavior as a disease.

There’s this idea out there that sex therapy is some scandalous occupation. . . but it’s not at all. A sex therapist is just like any other therapist, but with a specialty in sexual health.

Finding a therapist is difficult enough, let alone finding a sex therapist! Here are few things you need to know that will help you make the best choice:

Most clients I work with are under the assumption that every woman can experience orgasm with vaginal penetration. This is a myth! Only 18% of women report that they can reach orgasm with penile-vaginal penetration alone. Every other woman needs some sort of clitoral stimulation. Sadly, too many clients have told me that because they can’t reach orgasm with vaginal penetration, they feel “broken.” You’re not broken and you’re not alone.

My job is about increasing people’s quality of life. I am extremely privileged to be able to help people with their sexual health. I have the best career in the world.